It's hard to slow down and take it all in, but moms: I'm begging you: please remember where you've been. Remember the hard times as well as the good, remember what got you here- you're doing what no one else thought you could.
So often, we worry so much about the end goal -taking care of everyone, finishing school, promoting at work, getting through the season- that we forget WHY we are motivated to do those things. We forget about our reasons. We become so consumed in "getting through life" that we forget to stop and ENJOY life.
You can tell a lot about a man's true intentions by how he speaks about you and your children, and refers to possessions you may or may not have together. My only hope is that all of you can listen and catch these little details, as they are subtle cues that will foreshadow what you deal with in the future.
Now, take a deep breath; and imagine just the opposite. Two years have gone by and your life has changed in ways you never could have imagined. Your heart has healed. Your mental and emotional health is accounted for. There's a man in your life who reminds you just how loyal, loving, passionate, and driven you are. He encourages your self-improvement and pours himself into you daily. His family and friends have stepped up and offered their resources, things they were never obligated to do (but that's just the kind of people they are). You have accepted help when it was hard, and, in turn.. gained a higher sense of respect and humility.
I hope he forgets those moments when mom falls apart because it's hard to do everything herself, but remembers how strong she was because she always got it done.
This journey with you has been the most heartbreaking, gut-wrenching one; but I know someday we'll look back and smile. I'm so thankful for you and your steadfast faith that everything will always be okay.
No matter how you became a mom, how things have changed since, how much help you have or how little you get.. take pride in your work as a mom today. There is no other love in the world like the kind that your children have for you. And as much as I'd like a break (and vacation too), I will never find a love so true.
Parents: splits and break-ups and divorces are hard on all of us.. but just imagine how these little kids feel. They don't understand why Mom and Dad can't get along; they don't understand why Dad can't come around Mom; they don't understand why they have to go to a random public place to sit in a room alone with the parent they've only seen a handful of times recently. THEY DON'T UNDERSTAND IT. And they shouldn't have to.
Being so blessed to have the title of 'Mom' means so many things; it means 'Organizer' and 'Planner' and 'Cleaner.' It means 'Fix-It Lady' and 'Cooking Lady' and 'Chauffer Lady.' It means you get to take care of endless laundry, calculate the finances, schedule appointments, meet with teachers, plan the meals, buy the necessities, kiss the boo-boos. It means you are responsible for another person's life more than your own. It means dignity and beauty and compassion and power.
Be honest with yourself; have you? Have you thought about it in those moments of overwhelming exhaustion? In those times where kids are screaming, babies are crying, everyone is needing and wanting and demanding? Have you wondered if your children deserve better, because you are falling short?